Counseling for Couples with High Conflict
Are you tired of arguing with your spouse?
The hallmark of high-conflict couples is the inability to let go of the relationship. High conflict occurs when one or both parties involved in a conflict cannot or will not let go of their marriage battle.
All relationships have conflict but it is how that inevitable conflict is managed, that determines whether you grow closer together or farther apart. Cycles of conflict that are characterized by criticism, defensiveness and contempt or where underlying needs and hurts are never addressed will undermine the foundation of your relationship.
In high-conflict relationships:
- Arguments seem to come out of nowhere, get more heated or last longer than the situation warrants.
- Criticism, defensiveness, contempt or stonewalling characterize your communication.
- You just can’t talk about certain topics without it turning into a fight
- It feels like your friend goes away in a fight and is replaced by a mean or unloving stranger
- When things are going well, you have a great relationship, but when they don’t you doubt if you should even be together.
Communication & Conflict Management
Conflict management is a skill that everyone can learn. You can change how you and your partner communicate. Start creating a culture of admiration, appreciation and compassion in your relationship.
In High-Conflcit Couples Counseling you will learn how to:
- Increase the number and quality of positive interactions in your relationship
- Replace the damaging communication with more successful strategies for being heard and understood
- Practice offering compassion and understanding to your partner so that they are more able and more willing to meet your needs
- Develop strategies for curtailing hurtful conflict positively and for reconnecting once the fighting ends
- Practice accepting influence on important decisions and challenging subjects
If you feel like your relationship is one of high conflict, and resolving problems seems like an unachievable task, then please consider couples counseling so that you and your partner may learn how to effectively communicate with each other.