About Alissa Bulder

Warm, relational therapy for connection, healing, and growth

My Work & Perspective

Relationships shape so much of how we experience ourselves and the world around us. When relationships feel painful, disconnected, uncertain, or emotionally exhausting, it can impact every part of life. You may feel stuck in the same arguments, unsure how to communicate your needs, struggling to rebuild trust, or carrying anxiety and hurt that feels difficult to untangle on your own.

I work primarily with couples and adult individuals navigating relationship challenges, anxiety, depression, grief, trauma, and major life transitions. I especially enjoy helping couples strengthen emotional connection, improve communication, and create healthier relational patterns that feel more secure, honest, and sustainable.

I believe therapy should feel collaborative, supportive, and deeply human. Healing often begins when we feel safe enough to be honest about what we are carrying.

My Background

I earned my Master’s degree in Marriage, Couple, and Family Therapy from George Fox University and my Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Washington State University Vancouver. I practice under the supervision of Erica London, MA, LMFT.

As someone who has spent much of my life in the Pacific Northwest, I deeply value connection, creativity, and time spent with loved ones. Outside of the therapy room, I enjoy exploring outdoors with my husband, children, and dog, spending time with family, and finding creative outlets that help me recharge and reconnect.

My Approach

My style is warm, engaged, and relational. I view therapy as a collaborative process where we work together to better understand your experiences, patterns, emotions, and goals.

I use an integrative approach that blends emotionally focused therapy, strengths based work, narrative therapy, and relational approaches. With couples, I often draw from Gottman Method techniques alongside attachment based work to help partners move out of cycles of conflict and toward deeper understanding and connection.

I also enjoy incorporating creativity, intuition, and nontraditional approaches into therapy when it feels supportive to the client. For some people, this may include reflective practices, symbolism, or tools that encourage deeper self exploration and insight.